The best place to discover yourself is in the bath, right? Wrong. Sexologist Blaise Parker, Ph.D., says the fun begins after you're dry. Parker suggests applying lotion afterward, paying close attention to how it feels being touched and how it feels to do the touching. For an added lift: Chew on some Good & Plenty licorice while you apply cucumber lotion, like Bath & Body Works' Cucumber Melon (Bath and Bodyworks). The combo increases blood flow to important areas, according to the Nose & Mouth Research Foundation.
Hot Little Pill
In a study published in the Journal of Love and Marriage Therapy , taking the supplement ArginMax reported a boost in sex drive. The secret? L-arginine, one of the pill's main ingredients, may help blood flow to the right spot. "L-arginine enhances the production of nitric oxide, which relaxes blood vessels and could improve desire," says Cynthia Finley, a nutritionist at Johns Hopkins University Bayview Medical Center.
Buying erotic literature is like buying perfume. Personal taste is the rule, says Zoldbrod, whose favorite is Nancy Friday, author of My Secret Garden and Forbidden Flower. To find the right words to push your button, she suggests Web sites such as Clean Sheets and Scarlet Letters.